On Friday, Tommy had his first physical therapy. He came away sore. He did not want me at the site of his therapy but I could sit up front or sit in car. I was afraid he would not show them his swollen, red, ulcerated leg. But, he did.
He was sore when he came out. On Saturday morning he hurt. I was disappointed when he would not do his exercises on Saturday. Finally, about 10 pm, he stayed in the kitchen longer than usual. He was exercising using the counter. Then, he came in the living room and got on the floor, using a rolled up blanket under his knee. We need to buy a ball. I need one, too.
When he finished and caught his breath, he me that since he did not exercise three times, he just did all three sessions at once. WHAT??? He could not do a full 3X sessions. But, he came close. Oh, now he tells me he only tried to triple up the floor work.
I wanted to be there to encourage him to show her his leg, what he is up against. When he was through, I asked him if he showed her his leg. He did. I am the one who asked the doc who will do hip replacement about the leg problem to take a look as he was leaving the room. The surgeon thanked me for pointing it out, stating he would not operate until the leg was clear.
He says I worry too much. I pointed out that his lower leg might cause his leg or a portion to be amputated. I think that caught his attention, thankfully. He seems to be more focused on his leg health lately. He always dismisses the leg problem with "it's been that way for years."
I know I am not the only woman who has to push a man to pay attention to his health.
Daddy whimpered in pain all the time when he had pancreatic cancer. He would not take pain meds because the made him sick. He did not want to spend money on a prescription and waste money. I suggested he get one or two pills, not whole bottle. He could see what worked without stacking up meds he had to pay for.
Have you had to deal with a recalcitrant man concerning his health?
