One day last week, Tommy asked how long it had been since I had driven my car. About August 24th. He said we could get it out and drive it somewhere.
So, on Friday, I mentioned it. He seemed confused but finally got it. I suggested he move and park his car and then I would pull my vehicle close so he would not have to walk so far.
He did a slow, loud, controlled explosion. "Why do you say 'vehicle'? JUST SAY CAR. It is a car. Why do you say 'vehicle' all the time. It is a CAR!"
I just sat here, in shock. After a few moments, I calmly said, "You re crazy."
Then, he seemed to be okay with everything while I was hurt. He does this to me all the time.
Of the two of us, he is the one with a speech problem from childhood. NO ONE has ever complained of my speech, except him.
Because of the continuing vertigo, I stayed home from church again. The members were relieved. A woman with mental challenges fell at church this morning. A woman who fell in Publix parking lot last year has continued in therapy and she fell in therapy. So, the church members were glad I stayed away since they had enough of falls and news of a fall today.
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It's kind of like walking on eggs all the time if you never know how he's going to react or what mood he's going to be in. You definitely seem like the saner one of the two. (But I'm just a stranger on a blog; what do I know?) I mean no disrespect to him or you. It's sort of funny and sad at the same time.
ReplyDeleteThe people at your church who are true Christians are most certainly would not relieved that you were not there, they would be praying for your healing and overall situation and trying to help you when they can and checking on you during the week. Where is the pastor or deacons in all of this? Don't get me started on church people. I've been one for over 70 years and I've seen all kinds.
He does things like this all the time and when I least expect it.
DeleteThis is not my church; it is his. They are old. I missed two Sundays, Ill, and am still not on the prayer list. But, that does not bother me in the least. This is a tiny church. Most all the people are older than I. Minister has grandchildren and works full time and goes to school.
falls and dizziness are not good nor fun.
ReplyDeleteUrspo,
DeleteNo, but it seems there is a lot of it going around! I have had my fill.
I hope you will not be forced to stay with him long since he is so volatile.
ReplyDeleteCarole,
DeleteSo true.
He might be overreacting to your verbiage, but you might need to take less offense when he says things and just let it be like water off a duck's back. He has exhibited a truly kind side by opening his home to you
ReplyDeleteAnne,
DeleteI am taking offense for his yelling at me. I did let it run off like water off duck's back and refused to be baited. He is kind.
The thing is... a vehicle is any type of conveyance. ... An airplane is a vehicle. A boat is a vehicle. The definition is anything used for transporting people or goods, especially on land, such as a car, truck, or cart. An automobile is, by simple etymology of the word, a self-propelled mode of conveyance.
ReplyDeleteSo, actually, using "vehicle" is less precise, more vague, and way more pretentious than just using the actual word for the vehicle...which is an automobile, or car, or even the quaint "motorcar"... but not as colorful as using the slang "auto" "my ride" "hoopty" "rust bucket" "buggy" "clunker" "heap" "guzzler" "beater" "bucket" or "jalopy".
meetsy,
DeleteBut not wrong or objectionable enough to get upset.`
You know that when people get older they also get more cranky. Sounds like he's cranky.
ReplyDeleteShrug it off, and don't let it bother you.
It's probably just venting a bit. It is a big upheaval to have someone "underfoot" all the time, and he probably misses the drives to visit you, at your house.
Adjustments take time to settle out.
And, there is a reason the phrase "cranky old men" exists......and it's even a medical "syndrome".
Cranky old man syndrome is thought to be due to lower testosterone levels. So, don't take it personally...just figure he can't help it, and doesn't really mean it.
Yelling coming from nothing leaves me rattled no matter what it is the cause. He would be horrified to think he was a cranky old man. lol
DeleteJust catching up on your blog. I would HATE to be yelled at out of the blue like that. My ex used to explode for no apparent reason and walking on eggshells is awful. I feel for you.
ReplyDeleteTreaders,
DeleteTHANK YOU!!! It rattles me.