Friday, October 15, 2021

They Keep Dying

 I saw the obituary of a friend and wonder how he died. We have not seen or spoken to each other in about ten years. He was too far into alcoholism. When he was not funny, he was abusive. I was his computer person. The first thing I did for him had him convinced I was the best. He had had two "computer experts" (his words)  to work with his computer and printer. I was the only person who finally got his printer to quit speaking German or French or something. So, he paid me to make house calls. 

He was very young, not a boyfriend or anything.  But, I am shocked he died. Last year, I heard he was on the list for a liver transplant but recovered and did not need the liver. His birthday was September 3, and always sang the song about the third of September, just a bit of it. 

You may think he was not much of a friend if we had not spoken lately.  However, things happened and I was busier. So was he. 

Have you regretted not staying in closer touch with a friend who died?


19 comments:

  1. Considering I am still mid 50'sI have had a lot of classmates pass away. Most were people I knew but didn't now well after childhood. I can say I was very happy to have stayed in touch with two friends I met later in my life that both died way too young. It is a good reminder that the people we care bout are important to stay connected too.

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    1. SAM,
      I must say we were not close, but I have been meaning to call him. that chance passed.

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  2. Sorry for your loss, and yes I have regretted not staying in touch with people who have passed.

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    1. Kim,
      Thanks. It makes me said to not have done better.

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  3. my dh has had 3 guys who he was really good friends with dying young. This has happened to him 3 times now. One was a brain tumor, one late found stage 4 tumor/cancer, and another in an accident. Sad.

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  4. We lost a classmate that used to by Hubby's neighbor. We had reconnected through Facebook. He was up for lung transplant when he caught covid. Lost him quickly. My kids have lost several friends late 20s to mid 40s , covid, liver and lung issues, heart attacks.

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    1. Chef,
      At least you had reconnected. Those are very young people who died. And, they are young to be dying from those diseases.

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  5. I have had friends who I had lost touch with die and was very sad I did not have a chance to talk with them before they passed.

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    1. Anne,
      It happens, but I don't seem to do any better as time goes by.

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  6. I did have the chance to talk to a very, very dear friend before she passed quite suddenly only days later. But having had the chance to talk does not make me feel any better about her death. She was here, and she suddenly just vanished.

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    1. Sue,
      It would not make me feel better about a person dying, either. That is a very good way to describe it--vanished.

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  7. I'm always thinking about people and don't want to lose touch with them. On the other hand, I cannot be the one that does all the work to be in touch with people. It means these days there are a lot of people I haven't talked to in awhile. I am always sad when I hear someone I know has passed on. I just learned about one last night. I guess he has already been gone for just over a year. I didn't hear about it because he lived on the other side of Canada. I hadn't seen him in many years for that reason too. He died ahead of his time by falling and hitting his head. As you might remember I hit my head very hard a few weeks ago. I'm just lucky I'm still here. I'm sorry about the loss of your friend.

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    1. Joyful,
      I destroyed the reply to you. It probably is gone for good. I hate to always be the one to reach out. The person is usually thrilled to hear from me, probably from anyone. How did he fall? I am sorry about the accident. How did you fall? I hit my head twice and felt lucky to have made it through. Thanks.

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    2. Joyful,
      I read about your accident! Horrible!

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  8. When I retired I wrote out a list of maybe 10 people I would get in touch with, just to say hi or let's meet up. Occasionally I send another message but I agree, you can't always be the one to reach out either or for me it just goes stale. But I'm sorry for the loss of your friend!

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    1. Treaders,
      "Goes stale" is an apt description. Thanks.

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  9. Many times I have felt regrets not keeping in touch; these inspire me to keep in touch with those I know.

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    1. Urspo,
      I always say I will do better, but it seems I never do.

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